Did you ever notice when you blow in a dog’s face he gets mad at you? But when you take him in a car he sticks his head out the window.
Steve Bluestone

I love this quote. Mostly because it is fun and conjures up an image of several dogs I have known over the years – but also because it causes me to reflect on how important context is and how significant who or what I am “relating” to is in shaping the response or reaction I have and what we can do together.
Over the past few months I have been working with a number of people who have spoken a great deal about their sense of finding themselves working in situations that feel unfamiliar to them and in which they are having great difficulty making sense of what is going on or knowing what to do and how to act.
The philosopher Ludwig Wittgenstein famously said that, “… a philosophical problem has the form: ‘I don’t know my way about’.” It strikes me is that many of the situations these people describe sound very similar. Metaphorically they have found themselves in a “landscape” that, while consisting of familiar elements is hard to find your way about in. For Wittgenstein a good outcome of philosophical discussion was when one could say, “Now I know how to go on.” Similarly a good result in the complex situations managers and leaders find themselves in can be as simple as being able to say, “Now we know how to go on”.
Summarising Wittgenstein’s view of communication John Shotter suggests that it is ” … primarily a matter of people becoming oriented in relation to each other, of them coming to ‘know their way about’ within each other’s worlds and how ‘to go on’ with each other within the shared worlds constructed in their meetings.”
The difference between this and what I might normally have done in the past really gets me thinking. What if, in the past, I had paid more attention to finding my way about within the ‘worlds’ of the people I met in the landscape rather than looking for a guide in prior experience, “best practice” or logical analysis. Looking back it is clear to me now, that whatever success or resolution was achieved in these situations came as we “muddled through”. What made that muddling through work was the conversational “meetings”. Not the formulaic ones so much as the ones “… where there are misunderstandings, speaking at cross purposes, conflicts, and contradictions, with personalised voices stressing different points of view (and sometimes talking at the same time).”
Two questions are significant for me this week:
- What are the “meetings” that might enable me to stick my head out the window into a different context?
- How will I know one of these “meetings” if I stumble across it?
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Yesterday I happened to come across this statement in an abstract for a conference paper:
“… ‘messiness’ can be seen as problematic when viewed through the lens of more traditional governance processes. Looked at differently, however, it reveals a level of richness that can fuel innovation, enthusiasm and commitment if we design processes specifically to harness that energy – in essence, if we put the ‘messiness’ at the heart of the conversation.”
Trudi Lang and Lynn Allen

So how do we put the “messiness” at the centre of the conversation?
Here are some of the ideas and approaches that I have been finding helpful. They certainly don’t constitute a “method” or even a methodology. They are more like a collection of “resources” I draw on that direct my attention to aspects of situations that more linear approaches may cause me to miss seeing. In effect they are becoming part of my broader approach to sensing or noticing what’s going on in organisational contexts. They are in no particular order!
- These days I pay a lot more attention to how I am feeling, both physically and emotionally as I engage in conversations about the messiness. I find that these are often signs that there is something going on in the conversation that I need to be more aware of or pay closer attention to.
- As a consequence I am also much more likely to articulate the feeling I have. In a conversation last week one of the people I’m working with referred to a feeling of “weirdness” in particular conversational settings. Maybe wisely they didn’t articulate that feeling at the time nonetheless my experience is that doing so can often open up a new direction in conversations that may not have arisen otherwise. Of course it is also possible that people just look at you strangely when you say that something feels weird about this!
I try to listen for patterns and themes in conversation – repetition of words and phrases are often the first clue but it could equally be the use of a range of words and phrases all in relation to a particular topic – what I’m really trying to get a feel for is how people’s sense of what’s going on is being framed by the language that’s being used.
- These days I have a stronger sense that the present moment is something I can be in for more than just an instant. I no longer see the present as just an instant or point in time between the past and the present but rather as something that endures for a while, that can, in a way, be experienced as the place and time in which our “senses” of the past and present are created and re-created in the light of today’s issues and concerns. This is tricky to put into words but as I sit at my desk the present for me is not just the instant that I have paused to think about the sentence I am now writing but in fact a “landscape” that is alive with many things: my reason for writing, its connection into the work I am doing, the thinking I have done over the past few years, my sense of connection to the “audience” who might read this and my anticipation of how they might respond. It is also alive with my awareness of where I am sitting, what I can see out the window, my physical state and my relationship to the tools of my practice: computer, phone – will it ring and disturb me, will I answer it if it does? – and the environment in which I am fortunate to live and work. So to take this point a little further – these days when I am working with clients and we are engaged in a particular conversation I have a much more powerful sense of that conversation sitting in a landscape of something that is developing or becoming. I have a sense of this conversation’s connection to a future that we are in the process of creating but which we cannot describe in detail.
- Last, but certainly not least, nowadays I have a much more powerful interest in the “stories” that people tell and use as their way of conveying their knowledge about situations and the dynamics that are at play in them. Central to this is an increasing alertness to when these stories are backward looking (retrospective), forward looking (prospective) or fragmentary observations about the now. Typically retrospective and prospective stories tend to have more structure to them and represent a more “ordered” view of how things were or how they ought to be in the future. In contrast it is the fragmentary stories that float around in the “landscape of now” that often provide useful clues as to what themes and more ordered narratives are beginning to emerge.
For me these are all “resources” that are in fact familiar to us. We use them in our everyday relating with one another. It’s just that we no longer need to do so consciously. They are, as the philosopher Wittgenstein put it “hidden in plain sight.” In my view rediscovering these and other fundamental resources we use to relate and respond to one another as we continuously work out what action we will take next makes being caught up in the “messiness” much less daunting and much more like real life.
”… in our interactions, we do not experience ourselves as living and acting in a neutral space of simply inert physical objects. As living, embodied beings, we can, at each moment in our interactions with the others and othernesses around us, not only ‘go out to meet them’, so to speak, with the appropriate anticipations and expectations at the ready, but we can also have an evaluative and anticipatory sense of ‘where’ we are with them, and of ‘where next’ we might go with them – that is, we can have a shaped and vectored sense of how we are placed and how things are going for us in what we might call “the landscape of now.””
John Shotter (2009)
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At the moment I am quite focused on questions of strategy. I’m doing some work that is right in the middle of trying to make one aspect of a particular inter-organisational strategy actually work. My task at the moment is to wade through all of the documentation so far and sort what has been agreed, what has been done, what still needs to be done and and what is still open for further discussion and specification. Several things are striking me as I do this:
- How difficult it would have been to have specified all of this in advance. Some of it is quite clear. Other bits (generally the parts that were not central to the key players interests and concerns at the beginning) are quite murky – although it’s usually pretty clear what the general intent was.
- As this strategy is breaking new ground there are quite a few instances where the use of language (words and phrases) that have been understood in a particular way in the past is proving to be a difficulty. Nonetheless I suspect that “inventing” a whole new language would have been silly and most likely would have led to many very unproductive discussions – or perhaps would have been a major stumbling block to reaching agreement in the first place.
- What’s happening as a consequence of this difference in language though is quite interesting. A tension seems to be developing between those who are calling for clear and precise definition of terms and clear descriptions of everything under the sun and those who are less vocal but who seem to be seeing this more as an opportunity to iteratively shape a different understanding of the familiar, not because they are seeking whole-scale change but because they perceive that they are trying to do something that is similar to things that have been done in the past, but set in a significantly different context. And therefore crucially different both in intent and potential outcome.
- I’m also observing another tension – perhaps even an elephant in the room! We are “making this up as we go” in the most positive of senses. For many people this is both incredibly uncomfortable and unspeakable.
- What is apparent to me is that this strategy will only work if and when all parties agree. At each level at which the strategy needs to operate new agreements have to be created, tested and iteratively developed. No single person or group can define it all in advance because it all depends on how other people and groups respond. So the whole process is operating like a big conversation. Someone says something, others respond and gradually a way of acting together emerges.
The situation I have described is a pretty good example of some questions that are occupying quite a bit of my thinking at the moment:
- What do we need to be able to do (or perhaps who and how do we need to be) in order the operate successfully in situations and context that seem to call for a mix of ordered responses based on patterns we have identified in prior experience of similar situations and unique responses to events that seem to be occurring for the first time?
- Where is it best to focus our attention – on the patterns and lessons of the past (ie learning from experience), or on developing new capacities to “make things up as we go”? In these circumstances what might we gain or lose? Is there a middle ground?
More of this soon!
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“It is from numberless diverse acts of courage and belief that human history is shaped. Each time a man stands up for an ideal, or acts to improve the lot of others, or strikes out against injustice, he sends forth a tiny ripple of hope.”
— Robert Kennedy (US Attorney-General, 1925-1968)
“Remember there’s no such thing as a small act of kindness. Every act creates a ripple with no logical end.”
— Scott Adams (American cartoonist, b. 1957)
“We do NOT know the past in chronological sequence. It may be convenient to lay it out anesthetized on the table with dates pasted on here and there, but what we know we know by ripples and spirals eddying out from us and from our own time.”
— Ezra Pound (American Poet)
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